http://www.nytimes.com/2004/05/22/nyregion/about-new-york-in-the-bronx-a-graduation-with-honor.html?partner=rssnyt&emc=rss
About New York; In the Bronx, A Graduation With Honor
By DAN BARRY
Published: Saturday, May 22, 2004
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KATHLEEN MERCADANTE took her place in the second pew of the main chapel at Manhattan College, joining the cap-and-gown sea of men and women about to receive a diploma. Cameras whirred and clicked in the back of the room, while outside, rain clouds parted for the sun to bless a graduation day in the Bronx.
On one side of the center aisle sat dozens of young adults waiting to receive master’s degrees in education and engineering. And on the other side, people in their 30’s, 40’s and 50’s, a few with gray hair beneath their caps, and old enough to be the parents of those in gowns to their right.
These older graduates had finished Manhattan’s Adult Degree Completion Program, which is intended for people who once began but never finished their college careers, because of children or hardship or just life. According to its director, Jeff Katz, the program helps people to ”complete what has been unfinished.”
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”Colleen Carey.”
Ms. Mercadante remained still, her face set in an expression that said I will not cry, as Mr. Katz explained that Colleen Carey had died — and that Kathleen Mercadante would be accepting the diploma for her older sister, Colleen, college graduate.
Colleen Carey died last June, suddenly, of diabetes; she was 42. She loved to cycle and to golf and to tell jokes. She loved taking her nieces and nephew to concerts and plays. She loved helping her neighbors, so it was only natural that when one of them became ill, she treated him to takeout and cared for his cats. Oh, and she loved cats.
Colleen especially loved education, no matter how life often sidetracked her pursuit of a college degree. Little by little, though, she collected credits at local colleges, and when she learned that Manhattan’s adult program was being made available to employees at the Entergy Corporation, where she worked as a manager, she seized the opportunity.
”She always wanted to better herself,” her sister said. ”She wanted more. And I guess she knew that without her bachelor’s degree, it wasn’t going to happen.”
COLLEEN constantly emphasized the importance of an education to her family, and supported her younger sister’s decision to pursue an associate’s degree. But Ms. Mercadante had to drop out.
”There were just a few too many things going on,” she said. ”I finally had to say, which ball am I running with today? School will have to wait. But I’ll pick it up again when the time is right.”
When finally Ms. Mercadante stepped forward to accept her sister’s degree, she felt gratitude to Manhattan College, for making the moment possible. She felt admiration for all the people around her who had worked so hard. She felt pride in her sister’s accomplishment, and a little angry. More than anything, she wanted to be in the gallery, snapping photographs of Colleen in cap and gown.
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[JR: A well written poignant story. Too many times we over look these opportunities to motivate ourselves with the life stories of our fellow Jaspers. Too soon we get old; too soon we get smart about what really matters. THis story struck me because usually I do obits for Jaspers who graduate and then some number of years later, they die. This fellow alum is unique in getting the order reversed. Hopefully, we can learn to tackle the important stuff early in life.]
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