Tag Archives: Latest Trend

ENDNOTE: Marriage is on the decline

http://www.impactlab.net/2013/06/06/living-in-a-world-where-marriage-is-on-the-decline/

June 6th, 2013 at 9:07 am
Living in a world where marriage is on the decline

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There wasn’t much disagreement on the panel: End welfare payments for single mothers, stop no-fault divorce, remove tax penalties for marriage, and fix “the culture.” From this list the only victory they got was ending welfare as we knew it, which increased the suffering of single mothers and their children but didn’t affect the trajectory of marriage and single motherhood.

So the collapse of marriage continues apace. Since 1980, for every state in every decade the percentage of women who are married has fallen (except Utah in the 1990s):

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Sad. 

I’m glad I didn’t miss my soulmate.

I can’t imagine my life without here. 

Life didn’t work out as either of us thought. But we knew we’d have limited time together and made the most of it. 

I remember reading that “interdependence is the joining of two independent people to accomplish more than either could do on their own”. 

What are we losing, what have we lost, by this cultural shift?

Are the men and women happier without each other?

Or have we cheapened “life” so that it’s not as worthwhile as our ancestors?

Marriage as an institution may have developed as a survival mechanism, but it certainly is more than just that.

Sadly, I don’t see any change in thinking any time soon.

Too bad for them.

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POSITRACTION: Futurist Thomas Frey calls attention to “prisons”

http://www.impactlab.net/2013/01/04/when-prisons-become-illegal/

January 4th, 2013 at 3:02 pm
When Prisons Become Illegal
Futurist Thomas Frey 

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Restorative justice is an approach to justice that focuses on the needs of the victims and the offenders, as well as the surrounding community.

Crime is a larger issue than just how government deals with criminals. Since crime victims and the community bear the brunt of the crime, they too must be actively involved in the criminal justice process.

Currently, many victims feel re-victimized by the criminal justice system itself because it excludes them from most of the process. Using a different approach, with restorative justice victims take an active role in the process, while offenders are encouraged to take responsibility for their actions, “to repair the harm they’ve done—by apologizing, returning stolen money, or community service”.

Restorative justice asks that victim’s concerns be considered throughout the process. Victims need help regaining a sense of control over their lives, and they need to be compensated for their loss.

Rather than simply warehousing offenders, restorative justice holds offenders personally accountable. They need to confront the pain they have caused to their victims and take the steps necessary to overcome their criminal behavior.

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The USA has too many in prison.

Time to try something different.

As far as capital punishment, I’d restrict that to inmates that are too dangerous to put in prison.

Libertarians generally believe in restitution. And, we’ve been saying it for a while.

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POSITRACTION: Commuter marriages

http://www.impactlab.net/2012/02/21/commuter-marriages-on-the-rise/

February 21st, 2012 at 11:37 am
Commuter marriages on the rise
in: Analysis, Culture, Latest Trend

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Today’s technology is partly the reason. Unlimited cellphone minutes and video chats via FaceTime or Skype mean being apart doesn’t have to feel so isolating. “It can keep you together while you’re apart,” Stafford said. “It keeps you connected.”

But even the best technology is a poor substitute for being together.

Linda Young is a Texas psychologist that does relationship coaching, has lived apart from her husband for several years. She recommends that couples:

– Resist the urge to shelve unpleasant feelings out of fear of ruining the time you do spend together.

– Keep in touch in old-fashioned ways like writing notes and letters.

– Get creative, like watching the same movie so you can talk about it.

Living apart is not all chocolate and flowers and I-miss-yous. Having separate homes often means lonely weekends and having to show up solo at get-togethers with friends and family. And that can wear on a relationship.

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Luckily, I never had much of that. I did have to go to the USAF survival schools after marriage. Frau Reinke and I hated that. We were never apart for more than a week after that. People used to tease us that we were joined at the hip. We were. I miss her.

This story surprised me, because I didn’t think folks got married much any more.

Except for those folks trying to force a cultural issue.

Seems that the girls and boys don’t see the wisdom of the old ways.

In my case, I was expected to live at home until I went in the service. In Frau Reinke’s case, she was expected to live at home until she wed. That’s just the way life was. There was no discussion. No moving in together.

Common wisdom: It’s not fair to the girl. Why buy the cow, when the boy can get the milk for free.

Less common wisdom: It’s not fair to the boy. Why not get started on your real life? You don’t want an “easy” woman for your wife. It’ll nag you.

So, it’s good to see folks still getting married. Even at a distance.

And, there’s a move afoot to have the Gooferment get out of the “marriage business” and call everything a “domestic partnership”.

Seems like marriage will be left to The People. Sounds a little like the Tenth Amendment.

Hope all my fellow alums find these trends as inspiring as I do.

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